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When Contact Triggers Unease
Contact does something inside you.
A ripple spreads—subtle, quick, noticeable.
Unease arrives without story or judgment.
This is activation, not danger.
Your body is responding before your mind speaks.
The reaction itself is information, not instruction.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel "uneasy" even during safe physical contact?
This is "nervous system activation." Even if the contact is "safe" narratively, your body may be registering the "high-frequency stimulation" as a threat to its current settlement. In this model, we name this unease to decouple the physical sensation from the relationship's quality. You can love someone and still have a nervous system that "braces" during contact. Identifying this helps you communicate your "structural limits" without creating a narrative of rejection or brokenness.
What do I do when contact triggers me?
You move to "low-demand" proximity. Instead of intense contact like hugging, try "adjacency"—sitting near each other without touching. This lowers the stimulus load while maintaining the safety signal of presence. By respecting your body’s "unease" and adjusting the loop accordingly, you prevent a total "safety collapse." This builds structural trust between your Narrative system and your body, proving that you will protect your own boundaries even in closeness.