Lack of Tribe & Chronic Threat Activation
Understand nervous system stress caused by missing tribe cues.
Staying Present Without Asking to Be Let In
You can stay present without asking to be let in.
The boundary does not need to move.
Presence does not need permission to exist nearby.
Remaining where you are can be enough.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why shouldn't I try to "get closer" when I feel a boundary?
Trying to cross a boundary activates the Reward & Pursuit system in a way that can feel invasive to the other person’s Threat system. In the Meaning Density Model™, respect for boundaries is a structural necessity for safety. By not asking to be "let in," you close the pursuit loop and allow the relationship to exist in its current, stable state. This reduces friction and prevents the collapse of coherence that occurs during forced social interactions.
How does staying outside a boundary help presence?
It builds "trust through non-pursuit." When you remain present without trying to cross into someone’s internal space, you demonstrate that your presence is not a threat or a demand. This allows the other person to feel safe in their own autonomy. Structurally, this creates a "wide-margin" environment where both people can settle without the constant need to defend their boundaries, leading to higher meaning density over time.