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The Capacity to Contain Opposites
The capacity to contain opposites grows quietly.
It does not require resolution, agreement, or synthesis.
It only requires space.
Naming this capacity helps the system stop bracing against tension and allows difference to exist without threat.
Opposites become information, not emergencies.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I handle feeling "safe" and "terrified" in the same moment?
You expand your "Capacity to Contain Opposites." In the model, we visualize the self as a "Large Room" rather than a "Small Box." A room can hold both a fire and a fountain. By expanding your internal space, you allow opposites to exist safely without them "colliding." This "Spacious Awareness" is what prevents Emotional Flooding and allows you to remain stable in high-pressure situations.
Does "containing opposites" mean I'm ignoring my fear?
No, it means you are Contextualizing it. You see the fear as a "guest" in the room, but the room itself (the Integrator) is made of safety. By acknowledging both, you prevent the fear from "filling the whole house." This is the foundation of Structural Resilience: knowing you are big enough to hold the storm without becoming the storm.