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The Experience of Not Being Reached
Sometimes no one reaches you, and you notice it.
The space between hands remains.
This is not proof of unworthiness.
It is an experience that can be named without judgment.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why does it feel like nobody can "reach" me right now?
This is the experience of "non-reachability." It occurs when your internal "integrator" is behind a structural barrier, usually as a defense against loop overload. It’s as if your Narrative system has "retracted" to protect your core identity. DojoWell suggests recognizing this as a protective phase rather than a permanent loss of connection. You aren't "unreachable"; you are currently "self-integrating" in a private space that is temporarily closed to external input.
Should I be worried that I can't be reached?
Panic only strengthens the barrier. Instead, view this "unreachability" as a sign that your system is doing important internal work. It is the "Do Not Disturb" sign of the nervous system. By accepting this state, you stop the pursuit loop of trying to "be reached" and the threat loop of "being alone." This acceptance creates the very safety required for the barrier to eventually lower, allowing for high-density connection to resume when you are ready.