The Compulsion to Be Busy
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The Load of Holding Everything Together
Something holds everything together.
That holding requires effort, attention, constant presence.
You notice the weight of being the central support, the quiet responsibility of keeping systems intact.
This window names maintenance as burden rather than control obsession.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why am I so tired from just "keeping things going"?
This is the Load of Maintenance. Maintaining a social or personal architecture requires a constant expenditure of Integration Capacity. Even if nothing "new" is happening, the effort of "holding everything together" is a high-metabolic task. Naming this burden validates your exhaustion. You are the "structural engineer" of your own life, and that role is heavy.
How do I reduce the maintenance load?
By "de-tasking" the self and closing the Power Loops. Much of our maintenance is for "imaginary auditors" or "status demands." In the Meaning Density Model™, we prioritize "functional maintenance"—what is actually needed for safety—and let the "performative maintenance" slide. This preserves energy for settlement and coherence.