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The Space Left by Who You Used to Be
The space left by who you used to be can feel strangely tangible.
It is not grief in the usual sense, but an absence where certainty once sat.
This space does not demand filling.
Naming it allows the system to rest without rushing to replace what has completed its role in holding you together.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel a sense of "emptiness" where my old personality used to be?
This is "The Space Left by Who You Used to Be." In the model, we acknowledge this absence as a physical reality. You’ve stopped performing old roles, and that creates an Attentional Void. Recognizing this space without rushing to fill it is a high-level skill. It is not "emptiness" in a negative sense; it is Structural Room for your actual presence to finally expand.
What should I do with this "empty space"?
Nothing. In the Settlement Phase, the goal is to Accompany the Space. Don't try to decorate it with new hobbies or labels yet. By allowing the space to exist, you show your Threat system that you are safe even when you aren't "someone" specific. This "unoccupied space" is where the most profound nervous system recovery happens.