Domain: Avoidance & Delay Loops 3-5 min read Updated: 2026-01-15

When Avoidance Isn’t Being Named

Avoidance is not

being named

here.

No label

is required.

Without naming,

there is

less weight.

The system

can breathe

when it is not

being defined.

Let this neutrality

hold.

Sometimes relief comes

not from insight,

but from being left

unnamed

long enough

to soften.

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Frequently Asked Questions

I know I'm avoiding my work, and I feel terrible about it. How do I fix this?

Stop "Naming" the avoidance for a moment. In the Meaning Density Model™, the label "Avoidance" often carries a heavy Status-Shame load that actually makes you avoid more. By "Allowing Unnamed Space," you restore gentleness to your system. You aren't "avoiding"; you are simply "Not Engaging Yet." This shift in language lowers the Threat level, making it safer for your Identity to return to the task.

How can "not naming" something help me solve it?

It removes the "Identity Conflict." If you are a "Procrastinator," your brain stays braced against the shame. If you are just someone "Holding Space," the shame loop closes. In DojoWell, we believe that "Gentleness is a Technical Tool." By removing the judgmental label, you reduce the "Meaning Density" of the situation, allowing your Integrator to handle the actual task without the extra weight of self-criticism.