The Compulsion to Be Busy
Discover why staying busy becomes emotional avoidance and how it numbs uncomfortable feelings.
When Effort Isn’t Required for This Moment
Effort loosens its hold.
Hands rest open, not preparing or producing.
You sense how much energy was being spent on doing, proving, maintaining.
For this moment, nothing requires output.
The body recognizes relief without collapse.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel like I have to "perform" as soon as I see someone?
This is the "performance drive at entry," a Status & Control reflex designed to secure immediate social approval. Your system opens a loop of "how do I look/sound?" before you've even landed. The Meaning Density Model™ encourages reducing this drive. By deciding that the "entry" requires no specific performance, you preserve your integration capacity. You allow yourself to "arrive" as a structural fact rather than as a social product.
How do I stop the performance at the door?
You name the drive as it arises. "I feel the pull to perform." This neutral witnessing prevents the Narrative system from being consumed by the drive. You then focus on a small "done" signal—like the sensation of your feet on the floor. By anchoring in your own orientation first, you signal to your system that you are safe regardless of the social outcome, allowing the performance loop to close before it drains you.