Noticing Avoidance Before It Begins
Learn how to identify early signals of avoidance before the loop activates.
When Engagement Quietly Drops
Engagement doesn’t
always stop
abruptly.
Sometimes it fades,
like lights
lowering
a notch.
The system eases
its investment
to stay
regulated.
This dimming
is not
loss.
It is
modulation.
Let the room
remain visible.
You haven’t left—
it’s just
quieter now.
Notice disengagement gently with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I was excited about this project, but suddenly I just don't care. Did I lose my passion?
Not necessarily; your "Engagement Quietly Dropped." In the Meaning Density Model™, disengagement is often a "Safety Valve." If the project’s "Meaning Density" became too high—too much pressure, too many open loops—your system "Softens" the connection to lower the stakes. Noticing this drop "without alarm" prevents a Narrative spiral about "losing your spark," keeping the door open for engagement to return later.
How do I get my "engagement" back once it drops?
Don't "chase" the passion. When engagement drops, it means your system needs "Lower Density." Step away and do something completely "Unrelated and Low-Stakes." This allows the Reward system to reset. DojoWell suggests that "Engagement" is like a tide—it goes out so it can come back in. By not panicking when it’s "low," you allow the natural cycle of interest to restore itself without the friction of "forced care."