Guilt, Shame & Decision-Making
Learn how guilt and shame influence decisions and why they evolved as social survival tools.
When Praise Doesn’t Register
When praise doesn’t register, it fades before landing.
Compliments pass through like quiet sound in a loud room.
This filtering isn’t arrogance or denial; it’s protection learned over time.
Recognition brings volume back into range, without forcing belief.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I find it so easy to believe criticism but so hard to believe praise?
You are "Filtering Out Positive Input." Because your Threat system prioritizes "risks" (criticism) over "resources" (praise) for survival, it creates a structural filter. Praise doesn't "register" because the system sees it as non-essential data. Naming this filter helps you realize that your lack of "feeling" praised isn't because the praise is false, but because your internal "receiver" is currently tuned only to threat frequencies.
How can I make praise actually "land" in my system?
You have to increase the Meaning Density of the positive input by slowing down. When someone offers praise, don't deflect it. Stay with the words for ten seconds. Notice the urge to dismiss them and simply name it: "The filter is active." By holding the space, you allow the Narrative system to slowly integrate the positive data, eventually bypassing the threat filter and allowing the "good" to reach your identity.