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Being Near Without Approaching
Being near does not require moving closer.
Proximity can exist without approach, without intention.
You can share space while leaving distance intact.
Nothing has to happen next.
Nearness can remain quiet, unclaimed, and unconsumed.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is it okay to be near someone without wanting anything?
Absolutely. This is what DojoWell calls "normalizing proximity". In modern life, we often feel that presence must be a "pursuit loop" where we are always approaching or demanding something. By being near without the intent to change, fix, or engage, you lower the pressure on both your and the other person's Threat systems. It allows for a state of "ambient safety" where presence is a structural fact rather than a social transaction.
Why does "not approaching" feel so strange?
It feels strange because the Reward & Pursuit system is trained to see "nearness" as a signal for "action". We are used to high-velocity loops where every interaction must "go" somewhere. By being near without approaching, you are training your nervous system to value "being" over "doing". This creates a high-density experience of nearness that doesn't leak energy through unmet expectations or social pressure, allowing a more stable sense of self to emerge.