The Seduction of Power and Control
Understand why humans crave control and how it becomes emotionally addictive.
Control as a Way to Stay Upright
Control holds things upright.
It distributes weight, prevents collapse, keeps form intact.
You notice how structure supports not just tasks, but existence itself.
This moment names control as a stabilizing force rather than a flaw.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How does "control" help me stay "upright"?
This is the Stabilizing Function of Control. Like a splint on a broken bone, control provides the external rigidity needed when internal "coherence" is low. It prevents your identity from "collapsing" under the weight of unfinished loops and high-trigger environments. In the Meaning Density Model™, control is an "orthopedic tool" for the psyche. Recognizing that control is keeping you "upright" allows you to be grateful for the strategy while you work on strengthening your internal "core" of regulation and settlement.
What happens when I no longer need control to stay upright?
You experience Self-Supported Coherence. This is the transition to the "Recovered Meaning Era." When your internal systems are integrated and your loops are closing, you have a "natural uprightness" that doesn't require a "brace." You become "flexible but stable." Meaning then flows through you effortlessly, because you are no longer spending all your energy on the "scaffolding" of control. You are finally "standing" on your own structural foundation.