Procrastination as a Defense Mechanism
Learn why procrastination is self-protection, not laziness, and how to break the avoidance loop.
Looking Away to Stay Steady
You look away
to stay
steady.
The ground
under you
matters more
than what
you are facing.
Turning your gaze
is not
weakness;
it is
calibration.
The body chooses
stability
over intensity.
Let that choice
be honored.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I find myself looking away from my to-do list just to feel okay. Is that avoidance?
Yes, but it's "Looking Away to Stay Steady." In the Meaning Density Model™, this type of avoidance serves Regulation. If looking at the list triggers a Threat Response, looking away is a way to "Stabilize the System." You are manually lowering the "Visual Density" of your stress. This isn't "running away"; it’s "Creating a Buffer" so you don't become paralyzed by the sheer volume of requirements.
If I keep "looking away," how will the work get done?
Look back with "Limited Aperture." Instead of looking at the whole list, look at one item through a "Visual Filter" (like covering the rest of the page). By controlling the "Input Density," you make it safe to look. DojoWell teaches that "Looking Away" is a valid way to catch your breath. As long as you use that "Steady Moment" to eventually look back at a smaller "Target," you are managing your capacity effectively.