Domain: Avoidance & Delay Loops 3-5 min read Updated: 2026-01-15

The Pattern of Gentle Withdrawal

Withdrawal happens

gently,

like a tide

easing back.

Nothing is lost.

Distance increases

just enough

to restore

balance.

Let the water

pull away

without alarm.

Connection remains

beneath the surface.

Name gentle withdrawal with DojoWell.

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Frequently Asked Questions

I feel like I’m "pulling away" from my friends and family lately. Is my relationship in trouble?

Not necessarily; you are in a "Pattern of Gentle Withdrawal." In the Meaning Density Model™, withdrawal is often "Soft and Reversible." Your Safety system is "Tucking In" to preserve "Internal Margin." This "Gentle Retreat" allows you to "Maintain Connection" at a distance while you recover from "Saturation." It’s a "Self-Preservation" move, not a "Rejection."

How do I "withdraw" without hurting the people I love?

"Communicate the Tucking In." Say: "I’m feeling a bit saturated right now, so I’m going to be a little quiet. It’s not about you; I just need to lower my density." This protects their Status system and yours. DojoWell suggests that "Transparent Withdrawal" is a sign of "Relational Maturity." By being honest about your "Retreat," you keep the "Bridge" open for when you are ready to "Step Forward" again.