Stress Reconciliation & Inner Resistance
Learn how to reconcile with inner parts that resist change.
The Pressure That Pretends to Be Responsibility
The pressure that pretends to be responsibility feels heavy and familiar.
It insists it is needed, even when conditions have changed.
Like a coat worn indoors, it once protected, now it weighs.
Naming the difference between duty and pressure restores choice without neglect.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is there a difference between "feeling pressured" and "being responsible"?
Yes, and the model emphasizes "Separating Pressure from Responsibility." Responsibility is a high-density, narrative choice to care for something. Pressure is a low-density, threat-based "push" in the nervous system. Pressure pretends to be responsibility to gain authority, but it actually makes you less effective by triggering your Threat system. Separating the two allows you to act from values rather than from anxiety.
How can I tell which one I'm feeling right now?
Check the "Tone." Responsibility feels like "I am doing this because it matters." Pressure feels like "I must do this or else." Responsibility creates Coherence; pressure creates Friction. When you identify the "push" of pressure, name it: "This is a pressure-signal, not a duty." By dropping the pressure, you actually become more responsible, as your actions are now driven by clear-headed agency rather than frantic avoidance.