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The Pull Between Staying and Becoming
The pull between staying and becoming stretches across time.
One part protects what is familiar; another reaches toward what might emerge.
This tension lives at the center of transition, not at failure.
Naming it honors both continuity and growth without forcing either to win.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why am I so torn between wanting to stay where I am and wanting to change?
This is the "Pull Between Staying and Becoming." It is the fundamental tension between the Safety system (preservation) and the Pursuit system (growth). Naming this tension prevents you from feeling "stuck." You aren't stuck; you are in a State of Negotiation. Both "Staying" and "Becoming" are vital biological functions. Acknowledging their equal importance allows you to find a "Growth Rate" that doesn't trigger a total safety collapse.
Which side should I listen to: "Staying" or "Becoming"?
Listen to Both Simultaneously. In the model, the healthiest growth is "Rooted Becoming." This means changing in a way that preserves your "core safety." If you only "become," you lose your base; if you only "stay," you lose your meaning. By acknowledging the "Pull," you can design small, high-density changes that honor your need for safety while satisfying your need for growth.