Repeating Emotional Patterns
Understand why emotional patterns repeat across life.
The Quiet Compulsion to Reconsider
A quiet pull toward reconsidering appears.
The mind erases and rewrites the same line again and again.
This window does not force a decision or silence the impulse.
It simply names the compulsion without making it wrong.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I keep "reconsidering" my decisions?
This is Compulsive Reconsideration, driven by the Status system's fear of being "wrong." It’s an attempt to find a "perfect loop" where there is no risk. Naming this softly—"There is the urge to reconsider"—helps you stay oriented to your original choice. By not reopening the loop, you maintain your structural integrity. You allow the decision to "stand," which provides the stability your nervous system needs to reach a state of ease.
Is it ever good to reconsider?
Only if there is Significant New Data. Most reconsideration is just a "re-running" of the same data to soothe anxiety. In this model, we prioritize the "Done" Signal of the Decision. Once you have decided, the loop is closed. Re-opening it "leaks" integration capacity. By standing by your choice—even if it's imperfect—you build "internal trust." You move from a "fragmented" self that is always doubting to a "coherent" self that can handle outcomes.