Self-Neglect & Internalized Unworthiness
Understand self-neglect as a quiet, destructive emotional pattern rooted in old wounds.
The Readiness to Push or Go
There is readiness
to push
or to go.
Both impulses
exist at once.
This polarity
is familiar
in fight or flight states.
Naming it
matters.
You do not need
to choose a direction
yet.
Awareness
of the split
reduces urgency.
The system relaxes
when it knows
no immediate decision
is required.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I feel like I want to scream and run away at the same time. Which one should I listen to?
You are experiencing "Action Polarity." In the Meaning Density Model™, fight and flight impulses can coexist because your system is trying to "Push" (remove the obstacle) or "Go" (remove yourself). Naming both without choosing one is a powerful way to de-escalate. You are simply "fully activated." Recognizing the polarity prevents you from being "locked" into a single reactive behavior.
How do I settle down when I’m pulled in two directions?
Don't choose an action; choose a "Landing." Focus on a "Third Path"—neutrality. Acknowledge: "I have the energy to fight and the energy to flee." This "Narrative Awareness" creates distance from the impulses. In DojoWell, we use "Center-Anchoring"—focusing on the spine—to provide a stable point between the two polarities until the "Mean Density" of the triggers drops.