Emotional Numbness & Disconnection
Discover why emotional numbness happens and how your nervous system protects you by shutting down under chronic stress.
The Sense of Always Being On Alert
There is a sense
of always being on alert.
Muscles stay ready.
Attention stays forward.
This vigilance
is familiar,
even if it is tiring.
Recognizing it
does not require
changing it.
It requires
accuracy.
You are not anxious
by nature.
Your system learned
to stay ready.
Naming vigilance
brings clarity
without asking it
to disappear immediately.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I feel "jittery" even when I'm relaxed on the couch. Is this just who I am?
No, this is "Chronic Alertness." Over time, your system can normalize a state of high vigilance so effectively that you forget what true rest feels like. In the Meaning Density Model™, this is an architectural setting, not a personality trait. Recognizing your vigilance "without judgment" is key. If you judge yourself for being "tense," you trigger the Status system, which adds a second layer of pressure. Just notice it as a background "hum" of your current system.
How can I "turn off" this constant sense of alert?
You don't "turn it off"; you "taper it down." Start by validating the alertness: "My system is staying on guard to protect me." This appreciation satisfies the Safety system, making it less likely to "yell" louder. Then, engage in a "Low-Vigilance Activity"—something that doesn't require scanning, like a repetitive craft or listening to familiar music. This slowly proves to your nervous system that it is safe to lower its guard one notch at a time.