Emotional Labor Fatigue & Hidden Load
Learn why emotional labor exhausts you more than visible tasks.
The Sense of Being Pulled Two Ways
The sense of being pulled two ways lives in the body before thought.
Muscles tighten slightly, breath shortens, attention splits.
This tension does not demand a decision yet.
It simply signals that more than one direction matters.
Naming the pull restores steadiness without choosing sides.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why is the "pull" between two choices so physically painful?
You are feeling "Structural Tension." When two internal systems (like Pursuit and Avoidance) are equally activated, it creates a physical "clench" in the nervous system. Recognizing this "pull" as a mechanical event helps you stop "leaning" into the stress. You aren't being "torn apart"; you are simply experiencing the "torque" of a complex decision-making process in real-time.
How do I stop the "pull" from exhausting me?
You move from "being the rope" to "being the witness." Instead of trying to resolve the pull immediately, acknowledge: "There is a significant internal pull present." This creates Structural Distance. By not rushing to a "fix," you allow the nervous system to accommodate the tension without hitting the "Panic Dip," which conserves the energy needed for a later, integrated choice.