Emotional Fragmentation & Inner Parts
Understand emotional fragmentation and how to reintegrate.
The Space Between You and Feeling
There is space between you and feeling.
Not a wall, not a loss,
just distance.
You can sense where emotion should be,
even if you cannot reach it yet.
This gap is protective,
not permanent.
Do not try to cross it quickly.
Bridges reappear
when conditions stabilize.
Naming the space gently
keeps it from becoming frightening
or absolute.
Understand emotional separation gently with DojoWell.
Explore DojowellFrom Art to Science
Articles exploring the psychology behind these patterns.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why does it feel like there’s a physical "gap" between me and my feelings?
That gap is the "Space of Non-Integration." It exists when your Narrative system is observing an emotion but hasn't "claimed" it yet. In the Meaning Density Model™, naming this space without fear is key. The gap is not a void; it is a buffer zone that allows you to witness your internal state without being flooded by it. It’s a structural boundary that keeps your identity safe while your "Threat & Safety" system decides if it’s okay to re-engage.
How do I close the space between me and my emotions?
Closing the space requires "settlement," not effort. When you try to "reach" your feelings, you often create more distance by activating the Pursuit loop. Instead, focus on grounding your body in the present. As you complete small, physical tasks and your environment becomes more "finishable," the nervous system slowly lowers its guard. The "gap" narrows on its own as the need for a protective buffer diminishes in a state of sustained safety.