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When Closeness Isn’t Being Requested
Closeness does not always need to be offered or accepted.
Sometimes it is simply not being requested.
You can stay where you are without leaning in or pulling back.
Nothing is missing in this moment.
The space between holds its own balance, steady and sufficient.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is it possible to be close to someone without being "intimate"?
Yes. In this model, closeness is a spatial reality, while intimacy is often a high-demand pursuit loop. By lowering the intimacy demand, you allow the nervous system to experience physical proximity without the pressure to "open up" or "connect" emotionally. This creates a state of low-stimulus safety where both individuals can exist in the same field without triggering the Threat system through forced vulnerability or unmet expectations.
How do I stay present if I’m not asking for intimacy?
You focus on the structural fact of your shared environment. Presence isn't a request for more; it is the acknowledgment of what is already here. By removing the "demand" for intimacy, you stop the pursuit loop and allow your nervous system to settle into the current baseline. This ensures that your presence remains a stable anchor rather than an energy drain on yourself or the other person.