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When Expectation Lives Inside the Body
When expectation lives inside the body, posture carries it before thought.
Muscles hold a readiness that has no clear task.
This pressure is learned, not chosen.
Naming its presence restores dignity to the body that carried it quietly for years.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Where do "expectations" actually live in the body?
Expectations are often "localized" as chronic tension in the shoulders, neck, or jaw. This is the body "bracing" for a perceived demand. In the Meaning Density Model™, we don't treat expectations as abstract thoughts, but as Physical Loads. Identifying where this expectation lives—perhaps as a "weight" on your chest—allows you to address the pressure through physical regulation rather than mental over-analysis.
How do I "localize" an expectation I'm feeling?
Close your eyes and ask: "If this 'need to do more' were a physical sensation, where would it be?" Once you find it (e.g., a tightness in the throat), name it: "Expectation is currently held here." By moving the pressure from "the mind" to "the body," you make it a manageable structural event. Softening the physical area sends a signal to the Status system that the "demand" is not an emergency, allowing the pressure to dissipate.