The Seduction of Power and Control
Understand why humans crave control and how it becomes emotionally addictive.
When Managing Equals Surviving
Management becomes survival.
Tasks, lists, and oversight protect against collapse.
You notice how staying organized feels like staying alive, how losing control threatens safety itself.
This moment names that equivalence without questioning its necessity.
Name survival-management logic with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why does "managing" my life feel like a life-or-death struggle?
Because for your system, Managing equals Surviving. If the Status & Control systems are the only things keeping the Threat system from collapsing, then "dropping the ball" feels like a survival threat. Naming this helps you understand the intensity of your drive. You aren't "busy"; you are "regulating." This perspective shift is the first step toward finding less expensive ways to survive.
How do I move out of "survival management"?
By strengthening your internal integrator. Survival management is "bottom-up" pressure; recovery is "top-down" coherence. As you close loops and settle your nervous system using DojoWell tools, the "stakes" of management naturally lower. You eventually reach a point where a mistake is just a data point, not a threat to your existence.