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When Rest Triggers Unease
When rest triggers unease, stillness feels suspicious.
The body waits for correction.
Daylight falls on the bed unused, as if rest must justify itself first.
This unease is learned, not moral.
Seeing it allows rest to exist without defense.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel so "anxious" and "wrong" the moment I finally sit down to rest?
This is "Rest-Triggered Unease." When you stop "doing," the Reward & Pursuit and Status systems suddenly lose their "velocity." To a system addicted to speed, the "drop" to zero feels like a Threat. The unease isn't a sign that you should be working; it's the "withdrawal" of your pursuit chemicals. Naming this unease as a "deceleration symptom" helps you stay on the couch until the system successfully settles.
How do I survive the "unease" of resting?
Practice Accompanied Stillness. Acknowledge the "itch" to get up and name it: "This is the system resisting deceleration." Don't try to relax; just try to stay. Like a plane landing, there is turbulence during the transition from "high-velocity" to "landed." If you can tolerate the first ten minutes of unease, your nervous system will eventually register that "zero" is safe, and the deep, restorative rest will finally begin.