Emotional Suppression & Hidden Stress
Learn why suppressing emotions increases stress over time.
When Standards Become Structure
When standards become structure, they fade into the background like gridlines.
Choices move along invisible rails.
What once guided now confines.
Recognizing the grid reveals where flexibility still exists.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if my "standards" have become my "internal structure"?
Standards become structure when they stop being "goals" and start being the "walls" of your reality—rules you follow without even thinking about them. If you feel "unsafe" or "wrong" the moment you aren't meeting a specific standard, that standard has become a structural part of your Threat & Safety system. Identifying these structures allows you to see that your "personality" is often just a collection of internalized pressures that can be re-evaluated.
Can I change my internal structures if they are causing me stress?
Yes, but it requires "Structural Awareness." You can't just "wish" a standard away. You have to notice the moments where the "wall" of that standard prevents you from resting. When you find a standard that feels like a cage, name it: "This standard is a structural limit, not a law of nature." This creates the mental space needed to experiment with "lower-velocity" ways of being, eventually allowing the structure to soften and expand.