Self-Neglect & Internalized Unworthiness
Understand self-neglect as a quiet, destructive emotional pattern rooted in old wounds.
When Stillness Feels Unavailable
Stillness feels unavailable.
The body does not
want to settle.
This is not resistance
to calm—
it is activation.
Acknowledging this
prevents forcing rest
prematurely.
The system is mobilized
for a reason,
even if the reason
is no longer present.
Naming activation
allows the body
to slow naturally
rather than being restrained.
Acknowledge activation safely with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I try to meditate or sit still, but I feel like I'm vibrating. What am I doing wrong?
Stillness is often "unavailable" during high activation. In the Meaning Density Model™, "Movement Readiness" is a structural setting. If your system is primed for action, forcing stillness creates "Internal Friction," which feels like vibration. You aren't "bad at meditating"; you are simply in a high-mobilization state where stillness is architecturally blocked.
Should I keep trying to sit still if it feels so hard?
No. Acknowledge the readiness without judgment. DojoWell suggests "Walking Stillness" or "Active Meditation." If your system wants to move, move with it intentionally. By allowing "Slow, Conscious Movement," you satisfy the Safety system’s need for action while still achieving the "Regulatory Landing" you were looking for in silence.