Guilt, Shame & Behavioral Control
Learn how guilt and shame evolved to maintain tribe belonging and how they misfire today.
When You Hear Yourself Being Judged
When you hear yourself being judged, it can feel personal and final.
But listen closely—the voice echoes, repeating learned phrases.
You are the one hearing it, not the one it describes.
Separation begins with that distinction.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I deal with the feeling of being judged by my own mind?
You must separate your Identity from your Judgmental Thoughts. In the model, thoughts are "events" that happen within the structure of your mind, like weather in a landscape. When you "hear yourself being judged," you are the witness to a mechanical event in the Status system. By not "claiming" the judgment as your own, you stay safe and centered, even when the internal "weather" is stormy.
Why is it so hard to separate myself from my judgmental thoughts?
Because the Narrative system is designed to weave everything into a story about "Me." It takes a random judgment and turns it into "I am bad." To break this, practice "Structural Labeling." When a judgment appears, say: "A judgment is occurring." This objective framing prevents the "Me-story" from forming, allowing the thought to pass through your system without leaving a "shame residue" behind.