Stress Reconciliation & Inner Resistance
Learn how to reconcile with inner parts that resist change.
Carrying What Was Never Sorted
You are carrying what was never sorted.
Experiences piled together
without time
to separate or resolve.
This is not neglect.
It is circumstance.
Life moved faster
than processing allowed.
The system held everything
rather than dropping
something important.
Naming the lack of sorting
reduces self-judgment.
You were not avoiding.
You were preserving.
Sorting can happen later,
when space finally appears.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do things that happened months ago still feel like they are "on my plate"?
You are "carrying what was never sorted." In the Meaning Density Model™, an experience only "lands" and loses its weight when it is integrated into your Narrative & Identity. If life is moving too fast for "sorting," these experiences stay in your "active memory," taking up structural space. They aren't "past" events; they are "current" weights because your integrator hasn't had the quiet required to file them away as completed history.
How do I "sort" through a backlog of experiences?
You don't need to re-live them; you just need to "edge" them. Acknowledge the event and give it a "completion marker"—a simple statement like, "That happened, and that chapter is closed." By creating a definitive boundary, you signal to your Safety system that it no longer needs to keep that data "live" for protection. This "sorting" reduces the immediate weight and allows your internal space to open up for the present.