Self-Neglect & Internalized Unworthiness
Understand self-neglect as a quiet, destructive emotional pattern rooted in old wounds.
Not Broken, Just Paused
Not broken. Just paused.
Muscles unclenched.
Signals softened.
The system chose stillness
because movement once cost too much.
There is no defect in stopping.
There is intelligence in restraint.
You are not behind.
You are not failing at healing.
You are resting in a place
where nothing is required of you.
Let the pause remain a pause,
not a verdict.
Life resumes when the body trusts
it can do so safely.
Release self-judgment and move forward gently with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Does feeling numb mean I’ve lost my capacity for meaning forever?
Not at all. Numbness is a "pause" in the integration process, not a broken engine. Think of it as a buffer zone. When the world provides too many triggers and too few endings, the system pauses to prevent a total collapse of coherence. You aren't broken; you are currently protecting your remaining resources. Meaning is restored structurally, not through force. Once the environment and your daily loops become more manageable and "closed," the capacity to feel returns naturally.
How can I stop feeling like a failure because I’m in an emotional pause?
Failure is a narrative trap within the Status & Control system. You feel like you "should" be feeling more, which creates a new loop of pressure. DojoWell encourages viewing this pause as a necessary biological "reset." By re-framing the pause as a protective mechanism rather than a personal flaw, you close the self-judgment loop. This reduction in internal pressure is actually what allows the nervous system to eventually move out of the pause and back into active integration.