Emotional Numbing Patterns & Escape
Learn subtle numbing patterns and why they appear.
Staying With the Absence
Absence can be met without panic.
Nothing rises, nothing falls,
and that is okay.
The surface stays smooth
because the system needs calm, not stimulation.
Resist the urge
to disturb the water
just to prove it moves.
Stillness held gently
becomes capacity.
Over time, sensation returns
not as a surge,
but as a ripple.
Tolerance grows
when absence is allowed to stay without threat.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why is it important to "stay with the absence" of feeling?
Staying with the absence prevents the "pursuit loop"—the exhausting cycle of trying to force yourself to feel something. When you sit with the absence, you are telling your Threat & Safety system that "nothingness" is not a danger. This builds "meaning capacity." By not rushing toward the next sensation, you allow your internal integrator to clear the backlog of incomplete experiences, eventually making room for higher-density feelings that actually stick to your identity.
Does rushing to feel "something" make the numbness worse?
Yes. Rushing creates a "pressure loop." When you demand sensation, you activate the Status & Control system (judging your progress) and the Threat system (fearing the void). This internal friction actually reinforces the need for the system to stay numb as a defense against the pressure you are putting on yourself. By letting go of the need for immediate sensation, you lower the internal "noise" and allow your nervous system the quiet it needs to safely reboot.