Emotional Suppression & Hidden Stress
Learn why suppressing emotions increases stress over time.
The Distance That Makes Things Manageable
This distance makes things manageable.
Feelings are kept
at a size you can carry.
Nothing spills,
nothing overwhelms.
The system learned
to organize experience
by creating space.
This is not avoidance—
it is regulation.
Life becomes workable again
through structure and distance.
You are still engaged,
just at a tolerable range.
Recognizing this strategy
restores respect
for how you’ve stayed functional.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is it wrong to feel like I need this emotional distance to get through my day?
Not at all. Emotional distance is often a highly efficient coping strategy. When your environment is filled with "infinite triggers" and high-pressure loops, distance creates the "buffer" required to remain functional. According to DojoWell, this space makes life manageable by lowering the "Meaning Density" to a level your current integrator can handle. It’s an architectural choice your brain makes to ensure you don't experience a total system collapse under the weight of modern demands.
Will I be stuck behind this distance forever if I rely on it?
No. Relying on distance is a temporary structural adjustment, not a permanent identity. Think of it as a "work zone" barrier. Once the high-pressure projects in your life settle and you begin to close more behavioral loops, the "need" for that space will diminish. The distance will shrink naturally as your capacity for intensity returns. For now, acknowledging that the space is helpful—rather than "wrong"—is what keeps your identity intact while you navigate the overwhelm.