Emotional Logistics & Inner Organization
Learn how to organize emotional responsibilities like tasks.
The Pressure of Constant Holding
You are holding continuously.
Supporting weight
without release.
This effort is quiet,
constant,
and often unseen.
Validating it matters.
The system stays engaged
to prevent collapse.
This is not overreaction.
It is sustained effort
under pressure.
Acknowledging the holding
allows the body
to trust
that release will come later,
when it is safe.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why am I so tired even when I’m just "sitting" or "relaxing"?
You are likely engaged in "constant holding." Even when you aren't moving, your Status & Control system may be "holding" a mental list of future demands or past regrets. This "sustained support" requires significant metabolic and emotional effort. In DojoWell, we recognize that "holding" is an active process that causes profound exhaustion. You aren't relaxing because your "Safety system" is still bracing for the next loop to start.
How do I actually "set down" what I’m holding so I can rest?
To set something down, it must feel "safe" or "finished." If you can't finish the task, "delegate" it to a list or a calendar. This moves the loop from your "Identity" to an external "Storage." Once your brain trusts that the information won't be lost, the Safety system can stop "holding" it. Only when the internal grip is released can true rest occur. Practice "conscious dropping" for ten minutes a day to train your system that it is safe to let go.