Fight-Flight-Freeze & Shutdown Mode
Understand how fight/flight/freeze works and why freeze dominates today.
When Stopping Was Safer Than Feeling
Feeling became too much,
so stopping made sense.
Sensation was intense.
Emotion carried risk.
The system chose
to close the door,
not forever,
but long enough
to survive.
This logic is not flawed.
It is protective.
Seeing it clearly
dissolves shame.
You were not avoiding life—
you were protecting it.
Doors that close for safety
can open again
when the conditions are right.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why does "not feeling" seem so much easier than "feeling"?
Because for your system, "stopping" was safer than "feeling." Emotional data can be incredibly high-density and overwhelming. If your Narrative & Identity system is already backlogged, a new surge of feeling could lead to fragmentation. Shutdown follows a protective logic: it reduces the "input" so you don't have to process the "overload." In the Meaning Density Model™, numbness isn't a lack of feeling; it’s a temporary pause on the "experiencing" function to maintain structural integrity.
Is it bad that I prefer the numbness right now?
It’s not "bad"; it’s an admission of your current capacity. Judging your preference for numbness only activates the Status system's "shame loop." DojoWell encourages you to accept the pause. By admitting that "stopping" feels safer, you are honoring your system's current boundaries. This honesty actually builds trust between your Narrative and Safety systems, which is the very foundation required for your capacity to eventually expand and feel again.