Escaping the Matrix of Avoidance
Learn how avoidance shapes your inner world and keeps you trapped in invisible emotional loops.
Choosing Distance Without Deciding
Distance appears
without deciding.
There is no argument,
no plan.
Space simply
opens.
This separation
does not mean
rejection.
It means
regulation
finding room.
Let the widening
be allowed.
De-link avoidance from choice with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I find myself moving away from a project without really "deciding" to. Why?
You are "Choosing Distance Without Deciding." In the Meaning Density Model™, your Safety system can widen the space between you and a "Threatening Task" automatically. This "Natural Distancing" is a way your architecture manages its own capacity. By allowing space to widen naturally, you avoid the "Collision" of forcing yourself into a task you aren't ready for, preserving your "Internal Margin."
Is it okay to let "distance" happen naturally?
Yes, if you name it. "I am currently creating distance from this project." This transforms a "Reflexive Escape" into a "Conscious Strategy." In DojoWell, we believe that "Distance is a Tool." By allowing the space, you give the task's "Meaning Density" time to settle. When the distance eventually feels "unnecessary," you'll find yourself moving back toward the project with much less Avoidance Friction.