Why People Avoid Growth They Want
Understand the paradox of wanting change but resisting it.
When Approach Feels Like Too Much
Sometimes approach
feels like
too much.
Distance becomes
a boundary
that protects you.
This sensitivity
is not
fear—it is
precision.
The system knows
when closeness
would overwhelm.
Let the bridge
remain where
it is.
You can acknowledge it
without crossing.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why does it feel so overwhelming when someone "approaches" me with a new task?
You have a "Sensitivity to Approach." When you are already high-density, a new "Inbound Loop" feels like a "Collision." In the Meaning Density Model™, your Thresholds are protecting your remaining capacity. The feeling of "Too Much" is a literal biological measurement of your "Internal Room." Recognizing this sensitivity as a "Structural Fact" helps you set boundaries without feeling like you are being "difficult."
How do I handle an "approach" without snapping at people?
Signal your "Aperture." Say: "I hear you, but I don't have the room to integrate that right now. Can we look at it in an hour?" This uses the Narrative system to describe your "Internal Architecture." By making your "Threshold" visible to others, you prevent the "Impact" of the approach and maintain your Safety, allowing for a much more regulated interaction later.