Avoidance Loops and Unmet Needs
Understand why avoidance hides real needs and how to stop.
When You Don’t Have to Decide Yet
You do not have to
decide yet.
The paths exist
without instruction.
Choice can wait.
Lowering decision load
allows the system
to stay present
without freezing.
Let the crossroads
remain undecided.
Capacity returns
when decisions
are not forced
prematurely.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I have so many choices to make and I’m paralyzed. What should I do?
"You Don’t Have to Decide Yet." Decision load is a major fuel for "Avoidance Loops." In the Meaning Density Model™, every "undecided" path consumes your "Integrity RAM." By deferring the choice—explicitly saying "I will not decide this until tomorrow"—you "Archive" the loop and restore your immediate "Capacity." You are giving your Integrator permission to stop the "Simulations" and return to the present.
Isn't "deferring a choice" just avoiding my problems?
It’s "Managed Scheduling." Avoidance is "I can't face this." Deferring is "I will face this when my density is lower." DojoWell suggests that "Forcing a Decision" when you are "Saturated" leads to poor choices and more stress. By naming a "Future Decision Point," you maintain Status & Control while protecting your current "Safety." This "Strategic Delay" allows the "Meaning" of the choice to settle, making the eventual decision much easier and clearer.