The Calm of Mutual Distance

This is a state where two people agree—often non-verbally—to maintain a respectful gap. It is a "reciprocal settlement" where neither person is pursuing the other. In the Meaning Density Model™, this is a state of high coherence because there is no "loop friction." Both parties are oriented to their own centers while acknowledging the other's presence. This mutual distance creates a calm, low-gravity social field that is incredibly healing for an over-triggered system.

It is "normalized" when it is no longer seen as a "failure" of connection, but as a "success" of regulation. In this model, the ability to maintain distance without anxiety is a sign of a robust Threat & Safety system. It means you don't need to "clash" or "merge" to feel safe. By normalizing this reciprocal distance, you create a social architecture that respects individual integration cycles, allowing for more authentic and dense meaning to form over the long term.