Cognitive Unhooking & Thought Detachment
Learn how to detach from thoughts that trap you in loops.
The Pause Before Judgment Appears
This is the pause before judgment appears.
A small gap where nothing has been decided yet.
In this space, the reflex to evaluate slows, unsure when to enter.
Stay with the gap.
It does not require conclusions.
It simply exists as a moment without verdict or label.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How can I stop judging myself so quickly after I make a mistake?
You need to build a "buffer" between the event and the verdict. In the model, this is the "Pause Before Judgment." When you create this space, you interrupt the automatic Threat response that follows a perceived error. This reduces inner reactivity. By delaying the judgment, you give your Narrative system time to look at the situation with structural clarity rather than emotional shame, leading to better integration.
What does this "buffer" feel like in the body?
It feels like a brief moment of "suspension." Instead of the immediate "clench" of self-judgment, there is a soft "wait." In this wait, your breathing stays steady and your jaw remains loose. You are practicing "witnessing" rather than "grading." This physical ease is the evidence that the Status & Control system has been momentarily bypassed, allowing you to stay present with the "what" before deciding on the "how bad."