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Being Seen Without Being Engaged
Being seen does not always require engagement.
A glance can pass without anchoring.
You can register and move on without explanation.
Visibility does not obligate participation.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why am I anxious about being seen if I'm not doing anything?
This anxiety stems from the "threat of interaction." Your system assumes that being "seen" is an invitation that requires a response loop. DojoWell reframes this as "being seen without being engaged." You can be a visible part of the environment without being "available" for a pursuit loop. Recognizing this structural distinction allows your Threat system to stand down, realizing that visibility is not an obligation to perform or interact.
Can I be visible but still "off-limits"?
Yes. Visibility is a physical fact; engagement is a behavioral choice. By decoupling the two, you create a "contained presence." You allow others to register your existence without allowing them "access" to your social energy. This is essential for recovery, as it lets you benefit from social inclusion while keeping your internal "integrator" focused on its own necessary work of settlement and coherence.