Lack of Tribe & Chronic Threat Activation
Understand nervous system stress caused by missing tribe cues.
Staying Nearby Without Crossing
You can stay near without crossing.
Like standing at the edge where water meets land, nothing requires movement forward.
Proximity does not demand entry.
The boundary holds without tension.
You are allowed to remain exactly here, close enough to notice, far enough to stay intact.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I stay at a "threshold" without leaving?
Staying at a threshold means maintaining a fixed relational distance. In the Meaning Density Model™, this is a state of "structural suspension." You aren't advancing (Pursuit) or withdrawing (Threat); you are simply holding a stable spatial coordinate. This allows the nervous system to habituate to the other person’s presence without the "open-loop" anxiety of wondering if you should get closer or further away.
Why is it important not to "advance"?
Advancing often forces an "intimacy loop" that neither person may have the integration capacity to finish. By staying at the threshold, you signal that your presence is non-demanding. This creates a "safe perimeter" where connection can exist as a low-frequency background state. It preserves the "meaning density" of the current moment by preventing the exhaustion that comes from constant relational negotiation or boundary testing.