Emotional Tolerance & Capacity Building
Learn how to increase emotional tolerance safely.
Staying With the Gentle Descent
Stay with the
gentle descent.
Nothing drops.
Nothing ends.
Light lowers
gradually,
allowing the eyes
to adjust.
Accompaniment
matters here.
Do not rush
the dimming
or demand brightness.
Regulation completes
itself
when it is witnessed
patiently.
Let the softening
continue.
Accompany settling gently with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I feel like I'm "coming down" from a long period of stress. How do I handle this?
"Stay With the Gentle Descent." Settling is a process that requires your presence, not your interference. In the Meaning Density Model™, the "Descent" is the phase where your nervous system "unpacks" its bracing. It can feel heavy or quiet. Accompanying this process—rather than trying to "snap out of it"—allows the regulation to "Complete." You are simply "walking yourself home" to a neutral state.
What should I do if the "descent" feels uncomfortable or sad?
Acknowledge the feeling without trying to "fix" it. The discomfort is often just the "Sensation of Settling." Imagine you are a passenger in a plane that is landing; you don't need to fly the plane, you just need to stay in your seat. In DojoWell, we believe that "Staying Present Through the Descent" ensures that the "Landing" is stable and that you don't "Rebound" back into high-arousal out of fear of the quiet.