Domain: Avoidance & Delay Loops 3-5 min read Updated: 2026-01-15

When Engagement Isn’t Required

Engagement isn’t required

here.

No one

is watching.

No response

is expected.

This removal

of participation demand

allows the body

to remain

without bracing.

Presence does not

owe performance.

Let the seats

stay empty.

Safety grows

when observation

is optional.

Remove participation demand with DojoWell.

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Frequently Asked Questions

I feel like I have to "participate" in everything to be seen as successful. Why?

This is "Participation Pressure," which paradoxically increases avoidance because the "Cost of Entry" feels too high. In the Meaning Density Model™, "Engagement Isn’t Required" for you to be a "Safe Presence" in a room. You can be "Here" without "Interacting." This lowers the Status pressure and allows your Safety system to feel secure without the demand for "Performance."

Does "non-engagement" mean I'm being passive?

No, it means you are practicing "Observational Presence." You are witnessing the moment without being "consumed" by it. DojoWell teaches that "Presence" is the foundation, and "Participation" is an optional "Add-on." By reclaiming the right not to engage, you make future engagement a "Choice" rather than a "Compulsion," which significantly increases the "Meaning Density" of when you do choose to speak or act.