Avoidance Loops and Unmet Needs
Understand why avoidance hides real needs and how to stop.
The Habit of Not Facing Yet
There is a habit
of not facing
yet.
The door
remains closed,
and that is
information,
not failure.
Recognition
does not require
action.
Let the door
stay unopened
while awareness
stays present.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I’ve noticed I have a habit of putting things off until the last minute. How do I change?
Start by acknowledging "The Habit of Not Facing Yet" without the pressure to change it. In the Meaning Density Model™, recognition alone reduces "Systemic Strain." When you "See" the pattern, it stops being a "Hidden Script" and becomes an "Observed Behavior." This creates a "Meaning Buffer" between your Identity and the habit, which is the necessary first step for any structural change.
If I don't "pressure" myself to change, won't I just keep the habit?
Pressure actually reinforces habits by adding Threat Density. When you observe the habit neutrally—"I am currently choosing not to face this"—you remove the "Drama." Without the drama, the habit loses its "Energy Source." DojoWell teaches that "Clear Sight" is a regulatory act. Once you can see the habit without flinching, you can begin to make small, "Low-Friction" adjustments that actually stick.