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When Company Doesn’t Require Conversation
Company does not always require conversation.
Silence can sit between people without strain.
No one has to fill the space.
Being together can remain simple, unperformed, and unpressured.
Allow quiet company with DojoWell.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why is conversation so exhausting when I’m struggling?
Conversation requires high-level Narrative processing and Status management, which consumes significant integration capacity. When your system is already overloaded, the pressure to "perform" conversation can trigger a shutdown. DojoWell suggests removing conversational performance to allow companionship to exist as a purely structural, "bottom-up" experience. This lets you benefit from the presence of others without the cognitive labor of producing coherent speech or maintaining social masks.
How can I enjoy company without talking?
Focus on "parallel presence." Engage in separate, low-demand activities while in the same room. This allows the nervous system to register "safety in numbers" without the "threat of interaction." By closing the conversational loop before it starts, you preserve your energy for internal regulation. Meaning then arises from the quiet realization that you are not alone, even if no words are exchanged to "prove" the connection.