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When Conversations Don’t Land
Conversations can move without landing.
Words travel across the space, shaped correctly, timed well, yet something fails to touch down.
You notice the gap not as silence, but as drift.
Nothing is wrong with the language.
Nothing is wrong with you.
This is the experience of sound passing through without anchoring, like messages carried by air that never quite reach the ground.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do my conversations feel like they "don't land"?
A conversation "lands" when it is integrated into the Narrative & Identity system. If your system is overloaded or in a "low-density" state, the words may be heard but not "felt." In the Meaning Density Model™, this is a structural mismatch. The loop of communication remains open because the integration phase is missing. Recognizing that a conversation hasn't landed allows you to stop forcing the interaction and wait for a period of higher coherence.
Should I try harder to make people understand me?
No. Trying harder usually activates the Status & Control system, which increases internal pressure and further blocks integration. If a conversation isn't landing, the "integrator" is likely full. DojoWell suggests closing the loop by acknowledging the disconnect without judgment. This preserves your energy and prevents the "frustration loop" from draining your resources, allowing for a more successful connection later when the structural conditions are more favorable.